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By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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"How Can We Be Happy Again?" Part 2
May 7, 2021 9:05 am
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Today I am going to answer Help's question of "How Can We Be Happy Again?" by talking about our ability to calm and soothe ourselves and each other, and have loving,... More
May 7, 2021 9:05 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 13,417
Today I am going to answer Help's question of "How Can We Be Happy Again?" by talking about our ability to calm and soothe ourselves and each other, and have loving,... More
Couples and premarital: "How Can We Be Happy Again?"
Apr 29, 2021 10:53 am
Comments: 1 | Views: 13,647
Dear Chandrama,
How can we be happy again? I try to argue with him to get him to respond, and he goes further and further away, including long hours at work,... More
Apr 29, 2021 10:53 am
Comments: 1 | Views: 13,647
Dear Chandrama,
How can we be happy again? I try to argue with him to get him to respond, and he goes further and further away, including long hours at work,... More
"I" Statements that are Actually "You" Statements
Apr 23, 2021 8:40 am
Comments: 5 | Views: 15,737
No, that's not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use "I statements" or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to... More
Apr 23, 2021 8:40 am
Comments: 5 | Views: 15,737
No, that's not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use "I statements" or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to... More
"What Did You Do?"
Apr 16, 2021 9:05 am
Comments: 4 | Views: 13,658
On a recent warm afternoon, I noticed a man riding his bike with a huge mixed bouquet of flowers in his basket. I watched as he turns north from Willow onto Middlefield,... More
Apr 16, 2021 9:05 am
Comments: 4 | Views: 13,658
On a recent warm afternoon, I noticed a man riding his bike with a huge mixed bouquet of flowers in his basket. I watched as he turns north from Willow onto Middlefield,... More
Porn
Apr 9, 2021 8:29 am
Comments: 5 | Views: 17,014
I realized I have not written about porn, and that it would be a good idea to do so. This could be a huge topic with lots of offshoots, but mostly I want to share... More
Apr 9, 2021 8:29 am
Comments: 5 | Views: 17,014
I realized I have not written about porn, and that it would be a good idea to do so. This could be a huge topic with lots of offshoots, but mostly I want to share... More
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