By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ...
(More)About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.)
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A real couple is interviewed (and then their identity is changed to protect their privacy). Chandrama Anderson is the counselor. Written by Jonathan Small, for the Ladies Home Journal, July/August 2014 issue.
I feel honored to have worked with this couple, and to share the story of the work we did together to "save" their marriage.
Here's a preview from the article:
"the background
Audrey and Josh's lives were shattered
when their 2-year-old daughter died
suddenly. Their different ways of coping
threaten to destroy their marriage.
♠
audrey
I'd always wanted to
adopt a child, and the huge number
of abandoned girls in China really
moved me. We've been blessed with a
biological son, so Josh and I thought
it would be wonderful to give him a
sister. We traveled to China to pick
up Grace when she was 9 months old.
The connection was immediate. She
wanted to be with us all the time
and really loved her big brother.
♠
josh
Things were great until just
after Grace's first birthday when she
got sick and had a febrile seizure. We
rushed her to the ER and, much to our
relief, the doctors told us this type of
seizure was not uncommon in children
under 5 and that some young kids have
multiple seizures over the course of
a few years. A few months later the
seizures returned, but they were much
more intense, which really scared
us. The doctors had to put Grace in a
medically induced coma . . ."*
Read the
article:
*"Can This Marriage Be Saved?" column name belongs to LHJ. The article is on pp.42-48.
