By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ...
(More)About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.)
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The more I read about Mandela, the more I am impressed by his grace and humility. He initiated healing ? and connecting ? conversations with many people and organizations that caused great harm to a nation, a people, and to him, personally.
He sets a great example for how couples can treat each other: To reach across a chasm with words and an offered hand.
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can be the instigator of healing and connecting ? locally and in our immediate family. We can learn from Mandela to be the best friend, mother/father, husband/wife, sister/brother, co-worker/volunteer as we are able ? to reach for more within ourselves. This is not about being perfect. This is full-heartedness.
Read about Nelson Mandela, and experiment with embodying healing in your own relationship. Be the one to say, "That didn't go very well. Let's try again."
