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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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Couples: "The Goal of Marriage is Not to Think Alike, but to Think Together"
Dec 27, 2018 4:26 pm
Comments: 2 | Views: 31,980
I recently came across this quote comes from Robert Dodd, and it resonates in my work with couples.
We often select a partner that is different from us, yet complements... More
Dec 27, 2018 4:26 pm
Comments: 2 | Views: 31,980
I recently came across this quote comes from Robert Dodd, and it resonates in my work with couples.
We often select a partner that is different from us, yet complements... More
When Under Stress, Do you Fight, Flight, or Freeze?
Mar 18, 2016 9:30 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 31,943
While we are human beings capable of thinking, many of our reactions do not come from our thinking, or cortical, brain. They come from our limbic, or emotional,... More
Mar 18, 2016 9:30 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 31,943
While we are human beings capable of thinking, many of our reactions do not come from our thinking, or cortical, brain. They come from our limbic, or emotional,... More
Marriage Interview 6: Blind to Clutter
Apr 28, 2015 7:50 am
Comments: 7 | Views: 31,861
Mandy and Sam met in college in 1988 and began dating a year later. They waited 15 years before getting married, and now have been married for 13 years.
One of... More
Apr 28, 2015 7:50 am
Comments: 7 | Views: 31,861
Mandy and Sam met in college in 1988 and began dating a year later. They waited 15 years before getting married, and now have been married for 13 years.
One of... More
Couples: "When Good People Have Affairs" by Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 11, 2019 3:17 pm
Comments: 3 | Views: 31,846
Affairs are so painful for couples (I know that's a huge understatement). The desire to understand and the internal pressure of deciding what to do in the wake... More
Jan 11, 2019 3:17 pm
Comments: 3 | Views: 31,846
Affairs are so painful for couples (I know that's a huge understatement). The desire to understand and the internal pressure of deciding what to do in the wake... More
She Doesn't Want Sex; He Doesn't Want to Talk, Part II
Jun 2, 2015 8:45 am
Comments: 5 | Views: 31,839
I purposely left silence last week because that is what can happen when not talking and not having sex go on for a while. That silence gets filled with logistics,... More
Jun 2, 2015 8:45 am
Comments: 5 | Views: 31,839
I purposely left silence last week because that is what can happen when not talking and not having sex go on for a while. That silence gets filled with logistics,... More
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