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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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"I" Statements that are Actually "You" Statements
Nov 16, 2013 11:52 am
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No, that's not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use "I statements" or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to... More
Nov 16, 2013 11:52 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 56,777
No, that's not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use "I statements" or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to... More
Devices are Definitely Not Sexy
Nov 1, 2013 8:52 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 56,044
They may look sexy, but they are a turn-off to your partner. S/he looks over to give you a "Hey, how about it?" look, and you miss it completely because you're looking... More
Nov 1, 2013 8:52 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 56,044
They may look sexy, but they are a turn-off to your partner. S/he looks over to give you a "Hey, how about it?" look, and you miss it completely because you're looking... More
In-laws to Love, or In-laws from Hell?
Oct 17, 2013 8:10 am
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I fell in love today. It was not with my husband (this time). It was with a Macintosh computer. It happened once before; I can barely remember the year: it was a... More
Oct 17, 2013 8:10 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 55,460
I fell in love today. It was not with my husband (this time). It was with a Macintosh computer. It happened once before; I can barely remember the year: it was a... More
Tips, Experiments, etc.
Nov 7, 2013 7:36 am
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If you're like me, and most people, your first answer to what is missing in your relationship is to look at what your partner is or isn't doing. And it's certainly... More
Nov 7, 2013 7:36 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 55,265
If you're like me, and most people, your first answer to what is missing in your relationship is to look at what your partner is or isn't doing. And it's certainly... More
Go Ahead, Have a Fight
Oct 21, 2013 10:03 am
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Many disagreements come about because we don't understand our partner's intention, and s/he does not anticipate the impact that action or behavior will have on me.... More
Oct 21, 2013 10:03 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 55,177
Many disagreements come about because we don't understand our partner's intention, and s/he does not anticipate the impact that action or behavior will have on me.... More
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