My deepest condolences to the Keep family and the MVLA community. Thank you to Dr Flatmo, MVLA and CHAC for offering their services even though the school year has yet to begin. I will be forever grateful that when my son was hospitalized during a depressive episode in August before school began, Dr Flatmo was available to our family and assisted greatly in his transition back to school.

If you feel that your youth (of any age) is at immediate risk of self-harm or harming anyone else, please call 911 and ask them to send a CIT officer.

If your youth is in crisis (and is under 18 yrs of age and is in Santa Clara County) but is not at immediate risk, you can call Uplift Family Services's 24-HOUR CRISIS LINE (408) 379-9085 or toll-free (877) 41-CRISIS (412-7474) and they will send a crisis counselor to you free of charge.

If you are a TEENAGER in crisis, you can call Bill Wilson Center CRISIS LINE:  408-850-6140, or the Teen Hotline: 650-579-0353
or you can text anything to 741741 to start a conversation with a trained volunteer. For LGBTQ specific support, please call the Trevor Project Lifeline: 866-488-7386 .

The following local organizations offer free evaluations for possible mental health conditions in youth:

Bay Area Children's Association serves youth through age 25: Web Link

El Camino Hospital ASPIRE Intensive Outpatient Program serves youth through age 25. Call 650-940-7000 (Mountain View); 408-866-4021 (Los Gatos)

Children's Health Council serves youth up to age 17 and offers free 30 minute Care Consultations. Call 650.688.3625; Español 650.688.3650

Additional Resources:

NAMI Santa Clara County's Warmline Help Desk 1-408-453-0400, option 1. (Press #1 at any time during recorded message to reach the Warmline) can answer questions about additional resources.

Tears flowing... no adequate words except my heart spasm-ed with grief at yet another young person's despair. So very sorry for this family.

Your email said the family requested that information about his death not be shared at this time, and you follow that up with a statement about suicide. Nice way to respect the parents' wishes. All you needed to do was provide contact information for therapists and counselors.

I'm grieving for the family. Can this article be rewritten? Please "honor a request from the family" and not even mention the cause of death, even if it's a rumor. We need to uphold high standards in journalism instead of spreading rumors.

Also, if you are a family member of a youth who is refusing help and who is not in immediate danger, Teen Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers in-home therapy Web Link Also, The Bodin Group http://thebodingroup.com may be able to help and are happy to advise you. Bodin also offers a mentorship program which pairs your teen/young adult with a young adult mentor who is overseen by a psychologist.

Thank you Dave Grisman for talking about how this student died. I am a substitute teacher at MVHS, and I care deeply for the students, which is why I do it. I've had the experience of a student telling me he wanted to end his life. I reported the situation to the administration, which you can be sure takes this stuff VERY seriously. I'm trained in many things, but mental health at this level I am not. Why the student trusted me, I don't know, but thankfully he did, and he got help. Had I kept his secret, who knows what would have happened. If Dave Grisman doesn't share the cause of death of a student, then what are we to learn? Why keep a stigma around suicide and mental health so that it's not reported, not shared, not acted upon? I know Dave (though he wouldn't necessarily know me) and appreciate all that he does for the students. He's approachable and wants all of us who participate in the educational experience as students, teachers, aides, and more to be vigilant. But to keep mental illness and suicide issues behind closed doors would be a terrible disservice. I will be even more astute now. We can't help if we don't know. And talking about mental health and suicide needs to be in the dialog so that students and others will feel safe and get the help they need. My sincerest, deepest condolences to the Keep family and to the MVHS community.

Perhaps there is a need for a "mandatory reporter" state law for student mental health issues of an extreme nature. These types of laws apply to school employee observed/suspected sexual or child abuse issues and could equally be applied to student's extreme metal health issues.

Harvard Mom - these are all covered by state confidentiality laws (and federal health information disclosure laws): it is not up to Grissom to override the consensus of the community (statewide and nationwide) as it has clearly been expressed by the laws (state and federal). The public debate on these issues has been many years long - well documented and debated - and well covered in the press and by commentators at every level.

To everyone criticizing the author for disrespecting the family's wishes, it was clearly meant as a PSA. As someone whose family member has succumbed to teenage suicide (and in the 80s, when suicide was even more stigmatized) I cannot relay how important prevention through discussion is. We simply cannot assume this young man committed suicide, but we should address the fact that some youth will believe the rumors, and it thus becomes a public safety concern even if not true.

Studies strongly show the domino effect of suicide - one person's suicide greatly raises the risk of others following suit whether we personally knew the person or not. The effect is even observed when celebrities commit suicide - international rates increase. We live in a suicide hot zone with our competitive schools, and perfect seeming exteriors. Talking about it is the only thing that can help save a life. My deepest condolences to the family, and I hope they know that the community supports them.

It seems this was hard to follow:

1. The cause of Eddie's death is not known.

2. For whatever reasons, none hard to imagine, the kids are talking about the cause being suicide, and may be reacting as if it is.

3. Therefore suicide is a thing we need to be talking about.

I think the family's privacy is being respected.

Maybe Dave Grissom erred (Steven Nelson), maybe he didn't (myself, along with others). I support him and hope that the difficult dialog of speaking with our teens about it is on everyone's minds. The statistics are downright frightening:

March 19, 2018 - USA Today
The suicide rate for white children and teens between 10 and 17 was up 70% between 2006 and 2016, the latest data analysis available from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Although black children and teens kill themselves less often than white youth do, the rate of increase was higher — 77%.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (Web Link - 123 suicides per day in the U.S. "While this data is the most accurate we have, we estimate the numbers to be higher. Stigma surrounding suicide leads to underreporting, and data collection methods critical to suicide prevention need to be improved."

Margot Kidder's daughter just came out with this statement today:

“It’s a big relief that the truth is out there. It’s important to be open and honest so there’s not a cloud of shame in dealing with this.”

Now my two cents:
Let's build a dialog, not stifle one. Let's learn how to help our teens, not turn the other way because it's uncomfortable or embarrassing.

I hope the school counselors, teachers and administrators continue to help their students with as much transparency and honesty as possible.

@harvardmon I totally agree "I hope the school counselors, teachers and administrators continue to help their students with as much transparency and honesty as possible."

But different families process their own grief in different ways at different time scales. Some families want more private time, and others want to share. My comments are mainly that the family wishes must be respected by law.

Nearby prominent families have lost kids and gone very public after their grieving period. The Dauber's of Palo Alto/Stanford University have been one such family, that have used their grief to effect substantial change on how institutions handle bullying and sexual intimidation/assault in educational settings. Not all families have the resources or public stamina of that law school professor and her school board husband.

BTY "If Dave Grissom erred..." The administrator of Mountain View High School certainly did not error! He did not disclose anything that he should not.